Your love language is the way you most easily feel loved. There are five: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. This free love language test asks 30 quick “which would mean more to you?” questions and shows your main love language, with a percentage for all five.
30 questions
About 3 minutes
Free, no sign-up
Taking it as a couple? Answer on your own first, then send it to your partner and compare.
What are love languages?
Love languages describe the ways people most like to give and receive love. The idea comes from Gary Chapman’s 1992 book The 5 Love Languages, which names five: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.
Most people enjoy all five, but one or two usually land deeper than the rest. Knowing yours, and your partner’s, helps you stop guessing and show love in a way the other person actually feels.
SendLove isn’t affiliated with Gary Chapman or the publishers of The 5 Love Languages. The questions here are our own. The quiz is for fun and reflection, not a psychological assessment.
The five love languages, explained
What each one looks like, the signs it might be yours, and how to speak it, even from far away.
Words of Affirmation
Kind, specific words reach you more than anything else: a compliment that is actually true, encouragement before something hard, “I believe in you” said like they mean it. Silence or harsh words hit you harder than most.
Signs it’s yours
You reread old messages. You remember exactly what someone said to you, good or bad. A simple thank-you can make your whole day.
How to show it
Say what you appreciate, and be specific: “I loved how you handled that.”
Send a good-morning text with one thing you love about them.
Leave a note where they will find it: a bag, a book, a coat pocket.
Praise them in front of their friends or family.
Record a voice note before their big day.
From far away
Words travel well. Send a voice note when you can’t call, write a letter they can reread, and name one thing you miss about them before you say good night.
For you, love is presence. Not just being in the same room, but really being there: phone down, eyes up, listening. Plans made with you, and kept, matter more than grand gestures.
Signs it’s yours
A cancelled plan hurts more than a forgotten gift. You notice when someone checks their phone while you talk. Your best memories are moments, not things.
How to show it
Plan a date and protect it, even if it’s just a walk.
Put your phone away when they’re talking to you.
Start a small ritual: Sunday breakfast, an evening walk, a weekly show.
Ask a real question, then listen to the whole answer.
Try something new together: a class, a recipe, a hike.
From far away
Make calls feel like dates: pick a time, have a plan, watch the same movie at the same time or cook the same recipe on video. A call they can count on beats a long one that keeps getting moved.
Receiving Gifts
It isn’t about money. A gift is proof that someone thought of you when you weren’t there, and what you treasure is what it says: they listened, they remembered, they made the effort.
Signs it’s yours
You keep ticket stubs, notes and little things. A forgotten birthday stays with you. You love choosing gifts for other people too.
How to show it
Bring back something small from your day or your trip.
Remember the thing they mentioned months ago, and surprise them with it.
Mark small occasions, not just birthdays.
Wrap it, even if it’s tiny. The care is part of the gift.
Give something that reminds them of a moment you shared.
From far away
Send flowers or a digital gift they open on their screen, mail a small care package, or have their favorite treat delivered. What matters is that it arrives as a surprise.
Acts of Service
For you, love is a verb. When someone notices what needs doing and quietly does it, that’s when you feel loved. Following through matters: help that was promised and never came hurts.
Signs it’s yours
You notice who shows up to help. “Let me do that” says “I love you” better than the words themselves. Broken promises sting more than harsh words.
How to show it
Take one task off their list without being asked.
Handle the planning: the booking, the tickets, the logistics.
Make their morning easier: coffee, lunch, a full tank.
Do what you said you would do.
Ask “What would help most this week?” and then do it.
From far away
Help travels too: book their train, fill in a form together on a call, have dinner delivered on a hard day, or plan the next visit from start to finish.
Physical Touch
Touch is how you feel safe and connected. A hug, a hand on your back or just sitting close says more than words. Being apart is often hardest for you.
Signs it’s yours
You reach for people when you talk. A hug can fix a bad day. You feel distance in your body, not just in your mind.
How to show it
Hug hello and goodbye, every time.
Hold hands on walks, or sit close on the couch.
Offer a shoulder rub after a long day.
Reach for their hand during a hard conversation.
Ask what kind of touch feels good to them, and when.
From far away
This is the hardest one apart. Count down to the next hug, fall asleep on a call, send something they can hold (a hoodie that smells like you), and give the reunion a date.
Your love language is the way you most naturally feel loved. Take the quiz above: your main love language is the one you choose most often, and you’ll see a percentage for all five.
How many love languages are there?
Five, in Gary Chapman’s model: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Most people relate to all five, with one or two standing out.
Is this love language quiz free?
Yes. The quiz is free, with no sign-up and no email. Your answers are scored in your browser, and we don’t store them.
How long does the quiz take?
About 3 minutes. There are 30 quick questions, and each one takes a single tap.
Is the love language test accurate?
It’s a reflection tool, not a psychological test. Each love language comes up equally often, which gives a fair picture of what you lean toward right now. If a result surprises you, notice which choices felt hardest: that tells you something too.
Can your love language change?
Yes. Stress, distance, a new baby or a new job can shift what you need most. Retake the quiz every few months, or whenever life changes.
Can couples take the love language quiz together?
Yes. Take it on your own, then tap “Send the quiz to your partner”. When they finish, you both see your results side by side, with ideas for loving each other.
What if I score evenly across several love languages?
That’s common, and it isn’t a bad result. It usually means more than one kind of love reaches you. Look at your top two, and notice which gestures from the past month actually stayed with you.
Do we give love the way we like to receive it?
Often, yes. Many people show love in their own language, which is why couples sometimes miss each other’s efforts. This quiz asks what makes you feel loved; comparing results shows where you need to translate.
Is this the official 5 Love Languages test?
No. SendLove isn’t affiliated with Gary Chapman or his publisher. The idea comes from his 1992 book The 5 Love Languages; our questions and results are our own.
Do you save my results?
No. Your answers are scored in your browser. When you share, your result travels inside the link itself, so nothing is stored on our side.
How do I speak my partner’s love language from far away?
Pick one small thing you can repeat: a specific compliment for words of affirmation, a planned video date for quality time, a surprise for receiving gifts, help with a task for acts of service, and a countdown to the next hug for physical touch.